“A woman will forget what you say. She will forget what you did…”
That Maya Angelou quote is an excellent demonstration of the fact that you can’t trust women to tell you anything true about women. The part I repeated above is so wildly and obviously false that I can’t believe she tried to get away with saying it. Anyone who’s ever been in a relationship with a woman knows that if you say or do something she doesn’t like, not only does she remember it forever, she’ll make sure you know she remembers by reminding you of it regularly forever.
I agree and disagree. The point of the quote is that when first getting romantically involved with a woman, they care more about how you make them feel than what you say.
Case in point, there was a trend of telling a woman you were gay and still getting with her not too long ago. What you say will matter eventually, but early on, I don't think it matters much... hell, Ted Bundy knew that.
What are these "different degrees" of being single? I disagree with some of Chio's statements, but we both agree that "you're either in a relationship or not."
We all know about being in a friends-with-benefits situation or something similar, but I don't see how it's relevant to the topic. And many studies I read still conclude that men are more single than women... at least in the U,S.
No, there aren't. You have a relationship or not, it's that simple. And both men and women have them in similar numbers, it's basically 1:1, as it is only mathematically possible to happen.
The sample sizes on all surveys are at least N=1000
Funny how people believe in the surveys when they confirm their dumb narratives and then proceed to display their prejudice against women's capacity for honesty about their romantic lives. Yeah, researchers and surveys are wrong because women are evil liars, only dumb ignorant people who repeat the same tired tropes over and over again know the truth 🤡
But tell me, where do I have to look "deeper" this time? Because do you have a source, right? It's not just your misogyny showing, right?
It's a survey, it had a smaller sample than usual for men and it got that disparity of singleness. Other surveys with an equal amount of participants for both men and women show a much smaller gap.
I linked an article on the matter in my first comment.
What happens on dating apps is not product of female pickiness, but a skewed sexual ratio. There are more men than women there.
The researcher you are quoting, Roselfend, concluded himself that dating apps didn't affect greatly the “dating matket”. And most people is not meeting online, much less by using dating apps.
This is another piece on a 10 yo moral panic over women being able to choose who they date.
Even if the ratio on dating apps was 3 women for every man, women would still be pickier because they find fewer men physically attractive.
Gay men in contrast are way more inclusive in their physical standards for men they want to date. Any mediocre looking guy can find dozens of gay men to date despite gay men being a fraction of the straight female population.
The raw data on swipes and matches indicates that "women are picky", but once you control for the sexual ratio, both men and women receive the same amount, display the same preference for highly attractive members of the opposite sex, and have similar outcomes -dates/sex/relationships. What men experience on dating apps is not the result of "female pickiness", but a skewed sexual ratio.
But go ahead, I would like for you to prove that women would pick a small percentage of men if they were put on a scenario of male scarcity. IRL, almost strict 1:1 ratio, both men and women have intercourse and relationships the same amount.
See, that’s your privilege shining through. Because all of this, from Seneca Falls, to Simone du Beavouir, to Bell Hooks to your ignorant, hate-peddling ass.
This entire enterprise has never been about a thing other than depraved women such as yourself robbing half the human race of its humanity.
Feminism is by, about and for the fostering of women’s hatred of men.
You do your readers a disservice by not noting the limitations of the study, which was conducted in Korea and involved only 10 young women in one section and 27 in another. Tinder itself skews the results because it tends to focus on casual or short term “relationships”, offers little information other than photographs and studies have shown that women put higher emphasis on looks in such situations. The Match group study referenced is from 2009 and has been heavily criticized, although it is still cited by article by complaining men.
There are already far more men on dating sites and a majority of male users swipe right on many or even all female profiles, causing women to be inundated by likes and messages.
Young men today are badly served by people such as Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate, who trade on their insecurities and validate their anger at women.
“A woman will forget what you say. She will forget what you did…”
That Maya Angelou quote is an excellent demonstration of the fact that you can’t trust women to tell you anything true about women. The part I repeated above is so wildly and obviously false that I can’t believe she tried to get away with saying it. Anyone who’s ever been in a relationship with a woman knows that if you say or do something she doesn’t like, not only does she remember it forever, she’ll make sure you know she remembers by reminding you of it regularly forever.
I agree and disagree. The point of the quote is that when first getting romantically involved with a woman, they care more about how you make them feel than what you say.
Case in point, there was a trend of telling a woman you were gay and still getting with her not too long ago. What you say will matter eventually, but early on, I don't think it matters much... hell, Ted Bundy knew that.
This post is pure misinformation
Such thing is not happening irl, both men and women are having sex every year at similar rates 70-80%.
Most people who get angry don't read. The study was based on online dating, not irl.
Give it a read again.
"and they are far less single than the vast majority of young men."
This is also false, btw
https://open.substack.com/pub/nuancepill/p/further-confirmation-the-pew-singleness?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=2h00ao
What are these "different degrees" of being single? I disagree with some of Chio's statements, but we both agree that "you're either in a relationship or not."
We all know about being in a friends-with-benefits situation or something similar, but I don't see how it's relevant to the topic. And many studies I read still conclude that men are more single than women... at least in the U,S.
Quote them(?
No, there aren't. You have a relationship or not, it's that simple. And both men and women have them in similar numbers, it's basically 1:1, as it is only mathematically possible to happen.
The sample sizes on all surveys are at least N=1000
Funny how people believe in the surveys when they confirm their dumb narratives and then proceed to display their prejudice against women's capacity for honesty about their romantic lives. Yeah, researchers and surveys are wrong because women are evil liars, only dumb ignorant people who repeat the same tired tropes over and over again know the truth 🤡
But tell me, where do I have to look "deeper" this time? Because do you have a source, right? It's not just your misogyny showing, right?
Wait what about that pew study?
It's a survey, it had a smaller sample than usual for men and it got that disparity of singleness. Other surveys with an equal amount of participants for both men and women show a much smaller gap.
I linked an article on the matter in my first comment.
I know who the whole thing goes.
What happens on dating apps is not product of female pickiness, but a skewed sexual ratio. There are more men than women there.
The researcher you are quoting, Roselfend, concluded himself that dating apps didn't affect greatly the “dating matket”. And most people is not meeting online, much less by using dating apps.
This is another piece on a 10 yo moral panic over women being able to choose who they date.
Even if the ratio on dating apps was 3 women for every man, women would still be pickier because they find fewer men physically attractive.
Gay men in contrast are way more inclusive in their physical standards for men they want to date. Any mediocre looking guy can find dozens of gay men to date despite gay men being a fraction of the straight female population.
That's the lie, dude
The raw data on swipes and matches indicates that "women are picky", but once you control for the sexual ratio, both men and women receive the same amount, display the same preference for highly attractive members of the opposite sex, and have similar outcomes -dates/sex/relationships. What men experience on dating apps is not the result of "female pickiness", but a skewed sexual ratio.
But go ahead, I would like for you to prove that women would pick a small percentage of men if they were put on a scenario of male scarcity. IRL, almost strict 1:1 ratio, both men and women have intercourse and relationships the same amount.
Our degradation is just always anything and everything in the world except for obvious female mendacity.
There is zero ambiguity on THIS SIDE of the scope.
Good to see finally that it's about misogyny
See, that’s your privilege shining through. Because all of this, from Seneca Falls, to Simone du Beavouir, to Bell Hooks to your ignorant, hate-peddling ass.
This entire enterprise has never been about a thing other than depraved women such as yourself robbing half the human race of its humanity.
Feminism is by, about and for the fostering of women’s hatred of men.
Ah, yes, the privilege of choosing who I date.
Not reading ur whole crying.
My husband DMd me “I love you” on Facebook
You do your readers a disservice by not noting the limitations of the study, which was conducted in Korea and involved only 10 young women in one section and 27 in another. Tinder itself skews the results because it tends to focus on casual or short term “relationships”, offers little information other than photographs and studies have shown that women put higher emphasis on looks in such situations. The Match group study referenced is from 2009 and has been heavily criticized, although it is still cited by article by complaining men.
There are already far more men on dating sites and a majority of male users swipe right on many or even all female profiles, causing women to be inundated by likes and messages.
Young men today are badly served by people such as Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate, who trade on their insecurities and validate their anger at women.
Because we’re better
Why do people never dare mention that about 80% of women are not that attractive?
When I was young, the typical American woman under 40 probably weighed under 130 lbs. Today the average weight for all American women is 170 lbs.
In large part because Vilfredo Pareto (1848-1923) was correct.
80% of all NHL goals are scored by 20% of the players.
80% of all MLB home runs are hit by 20% of the players.
80% of all the RE commissions in America are earned by 20% of the agents.
80% of the time you wear 20% of your wardrobe.
80% of the responses on Substack go to 20% of the authors.
80% of the mass in the Solar System is contained in 20% of the planets.
80% of the crime in America is committed by 20% of the criminals.
80% of the auto accidents in America are caused by 20% of the drivers.
80% of the urban residents in America live in 20% of the cities.
80% of the filings of divorce papers are done by 20% of the spouses.
80% of the mass in the Milky Way are contained in 20% of the stars.
80% of all the books published are written by 20% of the authors.
80% of all of the songs written are composed by 20% of the musicians.
Stupid people: Talk 80% of the time.
Bright people: Listen 80% of the time.
And so on.
Well pit together. Good work.
Prove it, it's that simple